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Do you feel like you're not
living the life that you
want for yourself?

Have you experienced past trauma that you just cannot move past and forget? Do you find yourself repeating patterns of behaviour that you realize aren’t serving you and are keeping you from deeper, more meaningful connections but feel unable to stop?

Have you been impacted by inappropriate touch, sexual assault, experienced sexual misconduct in the workplace or elsewhere, and find it difficult to allow people to get close to you? 

I want to walk alongside you as you work to heal yourself from past trauma (sexual trauma, complex trauma, childhood) and attachment wounds from neglectful, abusive, and/or ill-equipped caregivers, and internalized family of origin beliefs that do not serve you in your current relationships. 

 

I can support you as you heal from chemical and behavioural addictions (compulsive sexual behaviours, including but not limited to the use of escorts, dating apps, webcam chats, problematic pornography use), love addiction, intimacy disorders, unhealthy financial behaviours, and mental health diagnosis (depression, anxiety, PTSD, Complex-PTSD, etc.).

About

Cognitive Behavioural Conjoint Therapy (CBCT) In-Person Intensive

Victoria, BC

June 21-23, 2024

CBCT is an evidence-based couples (or an dyadic relationship) therapy designed when one or both of the individuals in the partnership have PTSD. It is designed to reduce the severity of individual PTSD symptoms, enhance relationship satisfaction, and deepen intimacy. CBCT is a recommended therapy for First Responders and their families.

Complete 7 of the 15 modules over the in-person weekend to offer the skills needed to help you understand how PTSD impacts a relationship, how to reduce PTSD symptomology, and how to get the couple working together as a team against PTSD.

 

Remaining sessions focus on presenting issues unique to each couple and may be conducted in additional couples sessions individually with the therapist after the weekend.

Friday, June 21 6-8 pm

Saturday, June 22 9 am - 5 pm

Sunday, June 23 9 am - 3 pm

$2000+GST for the entire weekend

$300 deposit required to secure your spot

Limited to 6 couples

Intake sessions required before confirmation of registration to determine suitability

Please submit a request for contact if you would like to learn more. 

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About Me

I have worked at a number of British Columbia's inpatient residential treatment centres and in private practice working with individuals struggling with chemical and behavioural addictions, mental health challenges, and trauma since 2013.

I use Somatic Experiencing™ (SE), Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT), Prolonged Exposure (PE), and Cognitive Behavioural Conjoint Therapy (CBCT) to help individuals and couples heal from trauma.

I am trained in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy with Mindfulness (CBTm), and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)

I am a Certified Multiple Addictions Therapist, with a specialization in Sexual Addiction, Gaming and Internet Addiction, and Financial Disorders. I utilize an evidence-based approach to achieve long-term recovery from problematic sexual behaviour. I am also a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist working with the partners of those struggling with compulsive sexual behaviour.

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Treatment

Specializing in Trauma, Relationships, and Sex Addiction

Trauma

Trauma is not always one big catastrophic event that happens where you can acknowledge that what you experienced was traumatic. Trauma can be small "t" traumatic experiences that you may have minimized and do not fully acknowledge have had a lasting impact on you, and can be cumulative. This could involve childhood emotional neglect, parental/familial alienation, growing up in poverty, experiences of racism, discrimination, parental/familial struggles with mental health and/or addiction just to name a few. 

The long-term impact from one event, multiple events experienced over years, or childhood trauma can be felt throughout a lifetime and may cause you to hold a belief that you are unlovable or unworthy of an intimate and loving relationship. You may notice a tendency to isolate and pull away from others despite wanting to be close, pushing people away when you feel vulnerable, or having difficulty trusting others due to past betrayals. 

Relationships

Do you feel as if you keep having the same relationship over and over again, just with different partners?  Do you find yourself unable to avoid falling into behavioural patterns that you recognize are not serving you, but cannot seem to break the cycle of self-sabotage? Or do you struggle to allow partners to get close to you, often pushing people away despite wanting to build closer, more intimate connections with others.

 

Understanding your attachment style and how it causes you to show up in all your interpersonal relationships is the first step to challenging old familiar habits and patterns of behaviour. Do you feel as if you engage in unhealthy relationships and questioned yourself as to why you have a difficult time saying no to others? You may feel as if your intimate relationships have been unfulfilling, or find yourself being unfaithful and unable to commit because you may have to open up and be vulnerable? Have you ever had the thought that you wish you could just be "normal" when being intimate with a partner or frequently felt shame, guilt, or embarrassment after sexual activity and wished that it didn't have to feel that way? 

Addiction

Do you find yourself trying to reduce or control the use of substances? Do you identify that it is having a significant impact on your job, your family, relationships, and your money but find yourself unable to stop using? Do you find yourself engaging in other addictive substances or behaviour when you aren't able to engage with your substance/behaviour of choice? 

Addiction is a coping strategy and you may be using it to numb, avoid, suppress, or escape from something happening in your life. When you understand the purpose it serves, even though the relief is temporary, it offers you a deeper understanding of what you need to learn, do alternatively, or address that has you moving from abstinence to sobriety and able to make long-term and sustainable changes to build a healthier and improved quality of life for yourself. 

Sex Addiction

Do you recognize that you are engaging in problematic sexual behaviour that you find yourself unable to curb or stop despite negative consequences? Have you find yourself watching pornography that is impacting your ability to engage intimately with others, have you engaged the services of an escort, do you find yourself on dating apps despite being in a committed relationships, or engaging in behaviour that would be considered compromising by your partner. Have you noticed an escalation in your sexual behaviours to the extent that you feel shame and guilt at the thought of how much you are acting outside of your value system and risking all that you hold dear if you were to be discovered. 

Betrayal Trauma

Is your partner engaging in sexual behaviour that you find problematic and is impacting the intimacy in your relationship? Have you found your partner watching pornography that you find distressing, or have you recently been made aware of an infidelity? Do you feel as if your partner is gas-lighting you and you are uncertain as to whether you can even believe or trust yourself or what you saw or heard? Do you feel as if you are going crazy and find it difficult to find someone who understands what you're going through?

Betrayal trauma is real and partners are impacting in numerous and devastating ways to the extent that the symptoms they experience post discovery mimic significant post traumatic stress injury symptoms. There is a specialized healing journey for you to recover from this and you deserve support from that validates your feelings and experience. 

Sexual Trauma

Have you ever experienced unsolicited, unwelcomed, or undesired sexual attention or physical touch? Were you taught when you were growing up that your body, sex, or pleasure was a forbidden, and/or sinful and do you find yourself feeling guilt or shame about your body? Or were you introduced to pornography or sexual content that was not age appropriate and were not given education around healthy sexuality, sexual identity, or orientation? Have you ever been sexually assaulted, raped, sexually harassed or the victim of sexual misconduct? Have you ever downplayed unwanted sexual touch or behaviour because there was no force involved or you knew the assailant?

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